Living within walking distance of the Pacific is a blessing for many reasons, not the least of which is that it affords one the opportunity for some serious get-your-head-together time. I usually spend that time astride a surfboard, and so it was that I found myself bobbing up and down just outside the impact zone. The surf was a bit of a mess; some size and power, but no organization to speak of. Not a good day to increase my total wave-count (I caught one, and it's hardly worth mentioning). An excellent day, however, to think about writing. Made better by the fact that the break I'd settled on was empty - no surfers, no guys fishing from the shore, no pelicans, nadie.
A few days ago, I'd volunteered to join Kara's Mother's Day Blogorama/Bloggect (can't quite get my tongue around that, so I'm sticking with Blogorama). The mission: write something Mother's Day related. Easy, I thought. I'll write about my mom. I'll spend some time on it, make it good, no problem. As of this morning, though, I'd had a bit - a LOT - of The Writer's Block.
The feelings we have for our parents can twist and turn as we grow older; time becomes much less linear, as we resent being treated like kids, we working mature parents, who forget that we're capable of acting like absolute brats, usually because we resent being treated like kids. I envy those people who say that they have "wonderful relationships" with their mothers; at the same time, I can't help but feel that they're a bit disingenuous, if only because I don't have a "wonderful relationship" with my mom. This is not to say that I don't love her dearly - I do. But how to sum up the myriad of experiences and emotions that run through my head any time I think about my mom? Sitting out there on my board, pondering what the hell I was going to say about my mom, I realized that as a 36 year old, I'm no closer to figuring out my relationship with my mom than I was at 16, 10, 6, 3...
My solitude was interrupted by a pair of dorsal fins slicing through the water - I don't know what it is, maybe Cameron shoulda cast me as Aquaman instead of Vinnie Chase, but the dolphins, they seem to show up when I'm in the water. They cruised slowly past me, maybe five or six feet away (yeah, I've been that close, even closer, to wild dolphins and it never, ever, fails to thrill me). One of the pair was considerably smaller than the other, and swimming just astern and slightly beneath her, a mother and her calf, not an uncommon sight in the springtime ocean. The formation was deliberate - swimming in the wake requires less effort They went on their way, the calf occasionally veering off to check things out, the mother keeping a bit of distance, yet remaining watchful.
Yeah, a bit of an anvil, as they might say at Television Without Pity. Still, a good reminder at the right time, that ultimately we're all traveling through waters that can be placid, or murky, or rough, and we're fortunate indeed to have our moms with us, never really far from our side.